So there has been something that I keep hearing over and over again, and that's how couples are trying to make their wedding day special from start to finish for...themselves. I feel like the focus has always been impressing our guests, and giving them an experience, but now couples are finding ways to slow down the day and to take a moment together.

They don't want to feel rushed, or pressured to do what other couples have done. They are truly making the day unique and focusing on whats most important to them.

So here are just some of the ideas I've heard, and some of my own suggestions!

Have an intimate ceremony with just your family, and invite your guests to join you later

Some couples have even chosen to feed their family, and then serve appetizers and small bites for their remaining guests later in the evening. Depending on your timeline, this can really make your day intimate without excluding anyone. Plus, it'll help with your budget!

Take time in the morning to be with each other

I know this is a break in tradition, and so this may not be for everyone. However, having the opportunity to see each other, and grab a cup of coffee before the chaos begins, can really ease your nerves. One couple is planning a breakfast with just their parents and wedding party for the morning of the wedding, rather then the morning after. They want the day to start off feeling relaxed surrounded by the people that mean the most to them.

Spending some extra time with your wedding party

This is one of my own regrets from my wedding. Our main focus was to get ready in the morning, that I never took the time to relax with my girls, grab those group shots of us before we got dressed, or even remind them why it meant so much to me to have them there. So learn from my mistake, and just take a moment to do something together. It can be as simple as a quick toast with your mimosa, a special gift just for them, or a relaxing pedicure. This was something that was very important to me throughout my planning process, and it always makes me sad to know I didn't take that time for myself and to thank my ladies.

Having a drink together after the ceremony

This has been a popular one, and I completely get it. After you've said your I do's, the hard part is over. We've gotten through most of the day, and hopefully the pictures, so it's getting to the point where you can finally relax, eat and enjoy your evening. However, before you get lost in the sea of wedding guests, it's important to just take a moment and cheers to your new life together!

Private moment/first look

By now, hopefully you've heard of a first look, or holding hands around a corner to pray or exchange love letters. This is an absolute must. It gives you a moment after you're all dolled up, to really come together to reflect on why you love each other, and how excited you are. Think of it this way, do you really want the first time you get to say anything to each other to be up at the alter? There are a million emotions on your wedding day, and you've been spending months maybe even years planning, so isn't it important to spend more then 9 hours together?

Sneaking away during the reception

This is a great opportunity to do sunset photos, sneak a kiss, or to just take a moment to watch your guests enjoying the evening. Whatever it is, just take it all in.

There are tons of ways to make sure your day remains special, and to not let the inevitable whirlwind take over. Be true to yourselves, discover what is most important to you as a couple, kiss a lot, hold hands more, and take the time you need to absorb the love and emotion of the day. 


What is one way you are incorporating a private moment into your day? Comment below to win a special surprise from your Merc Girls on your wedding day! I will announce the winner next Monday!

XOXO Stephanie

Photo by Autumn Silva Photography

Photo by Autumn Silva Photography